What is the relationship between ‘just’ and ‘must’? It sounds initially like an imperative relationship – You JUST MUST do this, go there or see that. But there’s a deeper connection – there’s always a deeper connection.
The deeper connection is similar to the connection between fairness and fault. If you view the world as just, often a series of ‘must’ statements follow to reinforce this view. For the world to be just, the bad things that happen to people just must be their fault. When you have a choice between the world and a ‘victim’, it’s easier to blame the ‘victim’ than modify your world-view.
Do you remember when ‘tis nobler wrote:
As a strategy, blaming others is much, much more common than it is effective. Why is it that being seen to be doing ‘something that is really nothing’ is more favoured than just getting on with the job of doing ‘something that is something’? Pretending that the problems are ‘elsewhere’ because that is where you prefer to look is never a solution.
Think of the choice that is available to all of us all of the time – we can examine and explain or we can believe and blame. The former takes a lot of effort and may not always be possible or successful but the alternative, while simple and tempting, will invariably be counterproductive. This is not an argument against beliefs; it is a suggestion to review the connection between belief and blame. Does it make sense for specific blame (it must have been your fault and you got what you deserved) to flow from a general belief (the world is a decent place)?
‘tis nobler has examined this music video. ‘tis nobler cannot explain it. Nor can ‘tis nobler believe it. However, ‘tis nobler is not about to blame The Who for their ‘failure’:
Blame is an attractive proposition for it protects your belief that bad things happen to people who deserve these things. Which path will you take – the ‘examine and explain’ journey or the ‘believe and blame’ shortcut?
You have to choose either the ‘Es’ or the ‘Bs’ as this fundamental choice determines the direction and distance of your learning. You can move forward and keep moving or you can stay where you are and just go through the motions without much progress.
Choose? You just must.