Not Just The Splash
When discussing the concept of risk in the last post, ‘tis nobler pointed out that the common view of risk and risk taking behaviour was invariably negative. The ‘other side of the risk coin’ sees it as positive, effective and adaptive. Finding your own way both through and away from risk involves both balance and self-management.
You can’t take a unilateral approach to risk as risk is not unilateral. In the same way, consequences aren’t unilateral either. We tend to think of consequences as significant events – the big splash – and ignore the continuing ripples. It’s not just the splash that creates problems; you also have to cope with the ripples. In an aggregate sense, constant ripples may pose much greater problems than the occasional splash. And while ripples always follow a (risk-related) splash, ripples can flow from any disturbance. You can’t have a splash without ripples but you can have ripples without a splash!
Consequences are to risk as ripples are to life; the ordinary poses many more challenges for us than the extraordinary. The latest evidence suggests that ‘ripples’ follow cycles – we are more able to cope with ripples at certain times, times that coincide with the higher points of our daily or weekly life pattern. We don’t call Wednesday ‘hump day’ just because it falls in the middle of the working week; Wednesday tends to be associated with higher levels of negative emotions. In terms of peaks and troughs, Wednesday is a trough.
Compounding these broader cycles is the more volatile ‘ups and downs’ within them. And the more you are (or allow yourself to be) buffeted by this shorter term volatility, the more likely it is that ripples will continue well beyond the point where others have moved on. If you have an experience that you can’t forget, you’ll be affected by the hangover of ripples for some time:
It’s not just avoidance of the splash, or minimising its harm should it occur, that represents the self-management challenge. The pattern of ripples, the volatility of ripples within that pattern and the flow-on effects of past ripples all combine to produce greater challenges than the occasional splash.
In experiential learning and behavioural change, you will make a much bigger splash by effectively and efficiently managing the many smaller ripples.