Will This Make Me Happy?
Naturally, ’tis nobler is flattered that you might interpret ‘this’ as this post. But we need to think more generally.
Forecasting backwards is a contradiction in terms – how can you predict the past? In terms of actions, the past is fixed; in terms of meaning, the past is much more flexible. Even though you can’t change what happened, you can change its meaning – at the very least, the meaning it has for you – or you can forget that what happened did happen. What does this have to do with happiness?
Happiness is an awkward, nebulous and (unfortunately) often ephemeral condition. Predicting what will make us happy would be hard enough but it is made even harder because we mess up the prediction process. And this means that it is very difficult to learn from past predictions and refine our pursuit of happiness through experiential learning.
How do you assess these lyrics in Kid Cudi’s “Happiness”? He sings that he is:
“…on the pursuit of happiness and I know everything that shines ain’t always gonna be gold
I’ll be fine once I get it, I’ll be good …..”
It’s true – the pursuit won’t be perfect and you will be fine when you get it. But the imperfections in the pursuit will often work against you. A series of studies indicated the nature of the prediction process and its inherent problems – ‘tis nobler will keep the details brief in order to keep you happy. People are generally poor at predicting the happiness that will come from future events, people are poor at remembering their past predictions and people are poor at controlling the influence of how they feel during and after the event on their past predictions.
As a result, people don’t learn from the experience of past predictions and just accept that their current emotional state is what they were expecting. In terms of predicting happiness, the present is not always a gift – you change the meaning of the past by sending the present meaning back in time. You don’t learn anything for you think there is nothing to learn.
It’s hard to learn anything when you change the meaning of the past to conform to the present. And you do need to learn what makes you happy.
‘tis nobler will conclude today’s post at this point. Are you happy now?