December 16th, 2011 | Specific | 0 Comments
It’s not that there are doubts about your ability to juggle, although these doubts could very well be justified.
Nor is it that juggling doubts is a method for resolving them. Doubtless, you will recall that ‘tis nobler has already suggested that ‘double doubting’ is a more potent technique for reducing doubts than juggling could ever be:
Research has suggested that it’s better to question your doubts – be doubtful about them – and, through this internal interrogation, turn the certainty that you cannot into a possibility that you can. Think of this as untying the ‘not’ and discarding it…..Rather than learning in the shadows of self-doubt, realise that these doubts do not reflect certainties but simply possibilities that can be managed and reduced, if not eliminated. Fail to doubt your doubts and they may become self-fulfilling prophecies; doubt your doubts and become self-fulfilling.
You might also recall that ‘tis nobler noted that ‘shouting’ was useless in coping with doubts, as useless as juggling:
Strenuous advocacy can be a reflection of personal uncertainty. In these circumstances, such ‘shouting’ is designed to reduce doubts – a sort of “I must be right because I am stressing my ‘rightness’ so forcefully.” Trying to reduce your doubts by committing more strongly to that which you doubt has an even stronger influence on those topics/skills/behaviours that you deem more important. If it’s more important to you, you’ll ‘shout’ more often and more loudly.
The theme of this post is the doubts that arise from figuratively ‘juggling’ – trying to keep as many things going as possible and being pulled from one to the next in a never-ending struggle that aims to balance competing priorities, problems or personalities. Of course, actual juggling is itself a skill and, within reason, it is possible to keep the balls in the air:
But most of us struggle with ‘juggling’ for task-related and/or social demands can exceed our capacity and/or capability at times. It is reasonable to think that, in these ambiguously trying circumstances, the things that we hold most dear or identify with the most become even more important to us. However, some recent research has produced evidence that such circumstances can make us doubt our ‘mission’ rather than strengthen it.
It’s interesting to wonder whether these ‘juggling’ doubts can themselves be a coping mechanism, a way to refresh and reinvigorate rather than raise the white flag. ‘tis nobler has written about the relationship between the type of task and the effect of doubt:
Introducing doubts can benefit performance on simple tasks or more complex tasks that have become automated through substantial practice. There is no clear explanation for this, although motivation plays a central role. The arrival of doubt could prevent complacency, increase task focus or reduce the likelihood of distractions. If tasks are not simple or automated, doubt could increase conscious/intentional effort and this type of manual control is resource-intensive; performance is not enhanced as all effort is directed at just maintaining performance.
Juggling is an everyday feature of life, whether you are juggling tasks, demands, workload, decisions, responsibilities or people. With balance tantalisingly out of reach, the effort to achieve balance continues on and on. This can be wearing as this constant struggle can encourage doubts to enter. Doubtful juggling and juggling doubts combine to drag you down.
Juggle because you can’t avoid it. Doubt because you can’t avoid it. Find your own solution because you must.