November 9th, 2011 | Specific | 0 Comments
It’s not fair. It’s not right. It’s not valid. It’s definitely not balanced and, while it is not an act, it influences many of our actions. Whichever way you look at it, where ‘it’ is the ways you think about yourself and others, the way of looking at it is unequal. Where does this fundamental problem come from? Who could be responsible for this inequality? As ‘tis nobler asks these questions, the answer is clear – ‘tis nobler.
Of course, if you are asking the very same questions, the answer is equally clear – you. Along with wide shut (see previous post), everyone is also unbalanced:
I know myself better than you know yourself.
I know you better than you know me.
My ‘group’ knows your ‘group’ better than your ‘group’ knows my ‘group’.
Your actions ‘speak louder’ (say more about you) than my actions (say about me).
My thoughts ‘speak louder’ (are more consistent with who I am) than your (less consistent) thoughts.
And yet this lack of balance is generally ignored. Indeed, the suggestion that ‘you know me better than I know myself’ is be a popular theme in literature and music:
But this contention is not supported by the evidence. The origins of ‘Know Thyself’ are somewhat murky and the application of this saying to daily life is equally problematic. We think others know us as an open book but our senses and thinking can be ‘wide shut’ and we think we know others much more than they know us because we lack balance. How can we know ourselves when our perspective is so unbalanced?
Insight can be a marvellous quality but it (and other forms of thinking) can be distorted in many ways. When you use insight, what is literally and figuratively in sight? Can you think through these issues in a balanced way?
Find your own way through and around these distortions – it’s a balancing act!