Posts Tagged ‘values’

Deeply, Durably, Highly

September 7th, 2011 | Specific | 0 Comments

It’s easy to have an opinion; from having an opinion, it’s a short and backward step to becoming opinionated.  It’s harder, possibly much harder, to establish a position; do you understand the difference between opinions and positions?

It’s easy to hold an attitude; from holding an attitude, it’s a short and backward step to ‘having an attitude problem’.  It’s harder, possibly much harder, to adhere to values, to be purpose full; do you understand the difference between attitudes and values?

It’s easy to nominate a goal; from nominating a goal, it’s a short and backward step to becoming fixated and inflexible.  It’s harder, possibly much harder, to strive to achieve aspirations; do you understand the difference between goals and aspirations?

Opinions can be shallow.  Attitudes may be short-lived.  Goals may be simple.  When you think about opinions, attitudes and goals, there is nothing necessarily wrong with them but neither is there anything necessarily right with them.  Opinions, attitudes and goals need to have strong foundations, and the best foundations are comprised of positions, values and aspirations.  Without these foundations, it is all too easy to slip away unnoticed.  To avoid this, adopt a deep, durable and high approach.

‘tis nobler has emphasised the importance of ‘pattern development’ to make skilled performance more effective and much more efficient (most recently here), which raises the question – What are the ‘patterns’ underpinning your behaviour?

In addition to the (inescapable) opinions, attitudes and goals in your daily life, are there deeper and stronger patterns to your behaviour that enable you to go above and beyond?

Do you have positions or just opinions?  What are your values?  How will you achieve your aspirations?  These are big questions; the starting point for the last question might be to have aspirations (for research has shown a strong and positive link between aspirations and achievement).

Think deeply, commit durably, aspire highly!

 

Able Yet Unable

May 4th, 2011 | Specific | 0 Comments

It’s too narrow to think that experiential learning is about the development of ability.  For many life skills, those learned and refined through experience, ability is often much less important than other factors that affect your specific performance and your general behaviour.

Many are ‘able yet unable’ – they have the ability to do something and yet they are actually unable to do it consistently.  Sometimes ‘ the unable’ is produced by doubts, sometimes it’s produced by decisions and at other times it’s produced by distractions.  What else is capable of producing ‘the unable’ in your performance?

And so a way (of many possible ways) must be found to reproduce the value of your learning and keep ‘the unable’ at bay.  There is evidence that the value of your learning can be sustained by your values or, to be precise, affirmation of your values.  Essentially, if people reinforce the fundamental things that are important to them, this effort can act to strengthen ‘the able’ and push ‘the unable’ away.

The important thing to note is that this affirmation must be relevant at a personal level.  There is little point in saying ‘learning is important’, ‘people should have more tolerance’, ‘money is not the only motivation’ or ‘tomorrow will be better than today’.  Such sentiments often last no longer than their utterance and are almost entirely disconnected from the learning and change challenges that you are confronting.  This is why, when you want to stand strong, ‘tis nobler has changed the lyrics in this Wendy Matthews song:

“I’ll pick myself up, and turn myself ‘round

I’ll leave myself standing strong on solid ground

To save myself from these, these shifting sands

To join the Earth right here where I stand”

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It might seem strange to say but ‘able’ is not always necessary to be ‘able’, and the clue that ’tis nobler will provide is that the explanation can be found in self-management practices.  Whether it is or isn’t necessary, ‘able’ is never sufficient; the social proof for this is found in the many examples of ‘able yet unable’ that you encounter on a daily basis.

Whenever ‘the unable’ looms into view, remind yourself that value can be protected by values.  Stand strong and find your own way.